The "How Come's" and "Why Me's" To Heartbreak

"Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?"
- Leo Buscaglia

I would like to say I have hit rock bottom. Actually let me clarify. It is not that I would like or enjoy to say that, but as of right now, deep down, that is how I am feeling. I cannot exactly explain here, but to sum it up: life could be better. And normally it would be right around here where I would start going off on never-ending complaints, mulling over the "how come's" and "why me's". But I am not going to do that this time.

This is my "how come's" and "why me's" to heartbreak.

How come I'm not going to complain? 1) Because that is rather irritable and 2) because I think heartbreak is, simply, a mental condition. Okay Captain Obvious! Of course, it is mental; let me further explain. Any heartbreak hurts, that is a given. But I think the impact of that heartache solely depends on how you allow it to effect you. There are always two ways to look at any situation, either with the glass half empty or half full. You could easily engross in your heartache and become tangent to your pain; or you could differentiate that perspective by perceiving your heartbreak as a lesson. I always say how relationships can mold who a person becomes; how relationships are what make us, us. Because relationships, whether good or bad, help us feel; they help us understand what is real. My point being that, although heartbreak SUCKS, I can become stronger, by acting numb to the pain. Does that make any sense? If I do not let my heartbreak get the best of me, I will become stronger. I will be able to uphold new relationships. I will be able to feel, and understand what is real again.

And why me? 1) Because I believe pain can make a person stronger 2) because what is satisfaction without pain in the first place? And 3) because it really isn't the end of the world! I'll explain chronologically. First off, I believe pain makes you stronger because, well I don't know about you, but it would put me at much ease, with the idea of being able to shift past this. If I could progress through this pain, then I can be content once again, and even better, I would feel so much stronger. I would feel strength in knowing I was able to move past my pain. And I don't know about you, but that sounds pretty good right about now! Don't you think? Secondly, can there really be full satisfaction without pain? If nothing upsets you, then isn't the good just the norm? This second idea goes hand and hand with the first concept, because for instance, if I could depart from all my hurt, wouldn't that feel satisfying? And wouldn't that satisfaction make me stronger? You don't have to agree, but that is how I choose to look at it. And lastly, heartbreak is surely not the end of the world. I refuse to ponder, "why me" to heartbreak because the harsh reality of the matter is simply: everyone experiences it. This heartbreak is honestly not going to kill me. And what does not kill you, simply makes you stronger, right? Well, I will find out, for myself, if that cliche can be considered a factual statement. Because no matter what unfolds, I will stand tall even if it all goes wrong.